How to Regulate Before You Relate: Staying Calm, Grounded, and Loving During the Holidays

Holiday gatherings can bring out the very worst version of us — the anxious one, the shrinking one, the people-pleasing one — but what if that isn’t the real you at all?In this first episode of Marci's holiday-mini-series, Marci teaches you the life-changing tool that can give you confidence to show up in every holiday moment: Regulate Before You Relate.If you’ve ever walked into a family dinner, work party, or church gathering feeling tense, braced, overthinking, or wishing you could just disappear… this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air. Marci breaks down the 5 R’s of Regulate Before You Relate — Recognize, Reveal, Release, Reassure, and Relate — a simple, under-one-minute practice that helps you stay grounded, calm, and connected to your resourced, authentic self rather than your protective patterns.You’ll learn:Why your nervous system reacts in social or family settingsHow dysregulation shows up as bracing, shrinking, pressure-to-perform, or overthinkingThe exact words to say to yourself to shift out of survival modeHow to walk into ANY holiday moment with steadiness and quiet confidenceHow to use this tool with family, friends, kids, spouses, or even tricky conversationsWhy regulation is the secret to showing up as who you really areMarci also shares a personal story about navigating her own activation in social situations — and the difference it made when she regulated first.This episode is not just “holiday advice.”It’s a life skill.One that will change how you show up in rooms, relationships, and moments that matter.PLUS — Marci introduces her Holiday Glow Up Bundle, a special, limited-time invitation to join Self-Love YOUniversity and step into 2026 with clarity, steadiness, support, and belonging.If you want to feel more grounded, more present, and more like yourself this holiday season… this episode is for you.It’s your time to shine, my dear.🌟 Useful Links & Resources from Marci🔗 Visit My Website: To learn more visit www.marciowen.com💖 Join the Self Love YOUniversityA supportive space where Christian women learn to love themselves deeply, show up confidently, and live with purpose. 👉 Click here to enroll or learn more🧭 Book a FREE Clarity CallWant to feel more grounded, calm, and confident—starting now? Let’s talk. 🎯 Schedule your free call here💌 Get Marci’s Minute (My Weekly-ish Email)Real encouragement, practical tips, and personal insights to keep your heart strong and your mind grounded. 📬 Click here to join the list✨  3 Secrets to Instantly Feel Better Scroll to the bottom of this page for quick, powerful tips to shift your emotional state fast.🙏 Love the Podcast?Please take a moment to leave a review on your favorite platform. It truly helps more women find this work—and I’d love to hear your thoughts, insights, or questions.📲 Stay ConnectedEmail: [email protected]  Instagram: @marci.owencoaching Facebook: Marci Owen CoachingEpisode Website