How to Request an Evaluation So It Actually Moves

How to Request an Evaluation (and What to Say So It Actually Moves) If you've been sitting in that exhausting "something isn't adding up" season, this episode is for you. Maybe your child is trying, the school is trying, you're doing tutoring or supports or all the things, and somehow you still don't have a cohesive plan. In this episode, Dr. Amy Patenaude walks through how to tell when it's time to request a school evaluation, what actually makes a request move, and how to respond when the school says they want to "keep doing interventions first." You'll leave with a simple decision filter, grounded parent scripts, and a calmer way to think about evaluation as a clarity tool, not a verdict. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the best question to ask is not "Is this bad enough?" but "Will better data change what we do next?" How to tell when concerns have moved beyond a short-term wobble and into a pattern worth evaluating What "functional impact" really looks like in everyday life, from missing work and shutdowns to big feelings that block learning Why it's not either interventions or evaluation, and how to use a calm "yes-and" approach when schools want to wait The four common lanes that can help organize what you're seeing: executive function, academic skills, attention/regulation, and processing speed or working memory strain What a good evaluation is actually for: understanding patterns, identifying supports, and building a more cohesive plan Exact language you can use in an email or meeting to formally request an evaluation without sounding hostile, flustered, or overwhelmed What to say if the school says your child is "doing fine," or declines to evaluate Why big feelings around school demands are often a sign of overload or skill mismatch, not laziness, drama, or defiance Tiny Wins to Try This Week Start a 7-day dot log. Write one quick sentence each day: demand → what happened → what support was needed. Collect three work samples: one that shows what's hard, one that shows a strength, and one that shows inconsistency. Before your next meeting or email, write down just three bullet points so you're not winging it. Send your formal request in writing and include a clear follow-up line asking the school to confirm receipt and share next steps for consent. If you already have outside supports, sign a release so your provider and school can share information and work from the same story. Free Resources School Psych in Your Back Pocket: The School Testing Toolkit (K–12) — practical support for translating school systems, testing language, and what to ask for Big Feelings Decoder — turn "bad behavior" into brain language and next steps Boredom Buster Guide — quick ideas for the "I'm boooored" spiral 50 AI Prompts for Tired Parents — done-for-you prompts for calmer routines, scripts, and school emails Connect with Psyched2Parent Instagram Facebook TikTok Show Notes and Previous Episodes Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical, psychological, or legal advice. Listening to this podcast does not create a provider-client relationship. If you're concerned about your child's mental health, safety, or development, please consult a qualified professional in your area.