How to Set Boundaries without Feeling Guilty with Molly Ruben

Have you ever tried to say no but felt guilty, so said yes instead? Have you ever felt that tightness in your chest when people said or did something that didn't feel right, but you stayed quiet? Do people always refer to you as "so nice" but inside you might feel like a ball of fury? You might need to work on creating better boundaries...Today's guest is on a mission to help smart, sensitive women stop playing small, start speaking up, and step into the most confident, authentic version of themselves. Molly Ruben, and no, I don't think we're related, but maybe we are, we'll find out later, is a confidence and boundaries coach who helps women ditch people pleasing to create vibrant, unapologetic lives rooted in self-trust. With a background in public health, years of personal growth work, and deep training in feminine power coaching. Molly blends science, soul and strategy to help her clients build emotional resilience and rock solid boundaries. If you've ever struggled with saying no, setting limits or speaking up for what you really want, this conversation is going to hit home for you. TakeawaysMolly Ruben emphasizes the importance of understanding boundaries for personal fulfillment.Women often feel their primary role is to please others, which can lead to unfulfilling lives.Setting boundaries is a skill that can be learned and practiced over time.Self-compassion is crucial for women learning to set boundaries.Discomfort is a natural signal that can guide boundary setting.Practicing saying 'I'm uncomfortable' can help in boundary situations.It's important to take time to respond to requests instead of reacting immediately.Generosity and over-giving exist on a spectrum; awareness is key.Building trust with oneself involves small, consistent actions over time.Disappointment is a natural part of life, and it's okay to cause it in others.Chapters00:00 How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty : Secrets for People Pleasers with Molly Ruben03:14 Molly's Journey to Understanding Boundaries06:02 The Impact of People-Pleasing on Relationships08:30 Reclaiming Energy and Authenticity11:13 Defining Boundaries: What They Are and Why They Matter14:12 Recognizing and Communicating Discomfort16:56 Practical Strategies for Setting Boundaries19:26 The Spectrum of Giving: Generosity vs. Over-Giving25:09 The Cost of Self-Sacrifice26:45 Setting Boundaries with Children29:13 Understanding Boundaries vs. Rules31:56 The Role of Self-Compassion in Boundary Setting34:14 Rebuilding Self-Trust After People-Pleasing35:47 Small Steps to Empowerment38:08 Learning from Boundary ViolationsConnect with Boundary and Confidence Coach Molly Ruben: mollyruben.com to download your FREE Boundary Clarity Guide and book a FREE 1:1 consultation"Playing Big" by Tara Mohr https://www.taramohr.com/the-playing-big-book/Please like, subscribe and share this podcast with someone you think might enjoy it. And if you enjoyed the episode? Please leave us a review! It really does help other women looking to outsmart burnout discover the show.And remember, burnout is not your destiny; it's your wake-up call!Connect with Dr. Zarya Rubin:Listen to my TEDx talk about my burnout story: https://bit.ly/TEDxBurnoutLearn more: https://drzarya.comFollow along on IG: https://instagram.com/drzaryarubinDownload your FREE Outsmart Burnout Toolkit: https://drzarya.myflodesk.com/outsmartburnouttoolkit