How to Spot Gossip Disguised as Conversation (Morning Air)

Most of us have at some point walked away from a conversation thinking, Wait… did we just cross a line? On Morning Air, John Morales welcomed Father Michael Rennier to help us look at gossip through a Catholic lens this Lent, when the Lord invites us to purify not only our actions, but our speech. Father Rennier admitted he once excused gossip by hiding behind facts. “It took me a long time before I realized that I do have a problem with gossip because I had convinced myself that I could talk about other people as long as I was saying true things.” Truth matters, but charity matters, too. Sometimes “true” can still become harmful when it isn’t ours to share. He explained how gossip often feeds curiosity more than love. It can even sneak into “Christian” language: “I heard so-and-so is having a really hard time. Will you pray for them?”—while quietly hoping the details spill out. Father also noted that even good news can become a kind of theft if we “steal that person’s thunder” before they’re ready to share it. So how do you spot gossip? Father Rennier offered practical signs: speech driven by negativity or insecurity, talk that lacks empathy, conversations that create division, and that vague guilt afterward that tells you something wasn’t right. At its core, gossip is often a search for details we don’t need and don’t deserve. Instead of talking behind someone's back, take it to your prayer. Ask God to help the people in your life who are struggling. If you believe that someone's situation warrants a conversation to discuss how you can help them, find a confidant, someone with wisdom and a loving heart who can offer advice, not just more gossip. The best way to listen to the Best of the Week is on our #1 Free Catholic App. It’s free, and always will be! To get and share the Relevant Radio app, check it out here.