How to Stop Abandoning Yourself (Even If You've Been Doing It for Years) with Holly Fair

Have you ever looked after everyone else so well that you forgot how to look after yourself? In this episode of The Nope Coach Podcast, I'm joined by Holly Fair for an honest conversation about self-abandonment, people pleasing, confidence, identity, and what it really takes to start trusting yourself again. After surviving childhood abuse, divorce, infertility and the loss of a baby, Holly found herself disconnected from the person she used to be. Then she made an unexpected decision. She wore a crown every single day for nearly two years. It wasn't about getting attention. It became a daily practice of showing up differently, taking up space, and becoming the person she wanted to be before she fully believed she could. We talk about: what self-abandonment actually looks like why confidence usually comes after action, not before it how people pleasing slowly disconnects you from yourself surviving other people's disappointment when you start setting boundaries why your identity changes through repeated actions, not positive thinking the stories we tell ourselves versus what's actually true finding your own version of "the crown" learning to take up space without apologising for it If you've ever struggled to say no, found yourself shrinking to keep everyone else comfortable, or wondered how to rebuild self-trust after difficult experiences, this conversation is for you. Connect with Holly here: https://www.fireuplife.com Connect with Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com