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EPISODE · May 11, 2026 · 9 MIN

How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in the Name of Success and Goals | Episode 351

from Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery · host Barb Nangle

Send us Fan MailIn this week’s episode 351 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about a form of self-abandonment that many high-achieving people don’t recognize because it’s often disguised as ambition, productivity, or “doing it for yourself.”This episode explores the difference between genuinely caring for yourself and organizing your entire life around a future version of you while neglecting the person you are right now. I share a conversation with someone pursuing a long-held dream and the important realization that even meaningful goals can become harmful when they’re built on constant urgency, exhaustion, and disconnection from yourself.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why a future goal is not self-care if it’s built on present-day self-abandonmentThe hidden ways self-abandonment shows up through urgency, over-functioning, and postponing your needsWhy “I’ll take care of myself later” keeps people disconnected from themselves in the presentHow internal boundaries help you stay connected to yourself during stressful or messy seasons of lifeA simple daily question that helps you begin including yourself again: “What do I need right now?”This episode is a reminder that self-care is not just about the outcome you’re working toward. It’s about the way you treat yourself along the way. Because you cannot build a life that feels good later if you are abandoning yourself now.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” SessionMost women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up.On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.

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