How To Stop Dating Your Red Flag Collection, with Attachment Healing Specialist, Nima Rahmany: Episode 385

Send us Fan MailRed flags are easy to spot. What’s harder is admitting why we stay anyway, and what our nervous system is getting from the chaos. Robin Black sits down with Nima, an attachment healing specialist and trauma bond guide, to unpack the real engine behind stuck relationships: the unconscious payoff, the chase for “potential,” and the patterns we repeat when love feels familiar but unsafe.We dig into elegant boundaries and why “never again” rules can quietly become a wall that attracts the exact dynamic you fear. Nima explains how somatic healing and nervous system regulation change everything, because boundaries are not about controlling someone else, they’re about the action we take when our needs aren’t met. We also talk identity work, attachment styles, and the moment you stop collecting techniques and start defining what “working” actually means: discernment, self-trust, emotional regulation, and the ability to walk away sooner.The conversation goes deep on trauma bonds, love bombing, intermittent reinforcement, and the victim story that keeps people locked in blame. Nima shares personal lessons on rupture and repair, healing shame, and building a secure relationship that doesn’t require losing yourself. If you’ve ever said “Why do I keep attracting this?” you’ll leave with language, tools, and a clearer path forward.Subscribe for more conversations on healing and relationships, share this with someone who’s stuck in the push-pull, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What pattern are you ready to break next?****** Check Out Nima's Special Offer *******https://go.drnima.com/dwzwnTo Reach Nima - Socials: https://www.facebook.com/drnimarahmany/https://www.instagram.com/drnima/?hl=enhttps://www.youtube.com/c/drnimarahmanyWebsite:https://becometriggerproof.com/©2022-2026 Soul Healer17:77, LLC. All Rights Reserved. Any copying of this poetry and audio in whole or part is prohibited. *I do not own the rights to the royalty free music*Have a lovely day and stay blessedSupport the show