How to Stop Feeling Not Enough: Grief, Purpose, and Finding Yourself Again

You don’t feel lost because you’re broken. You feel lost because you’ve stopped looking up.In this episode of Quick Before You Forget, host Ty Schmidt sits down at Lazy Pickle Studios in LA with actor, storyteller, and abundant and inspiring human Bourke Floyd.This conversation goes deep into:Feeling lost and not enoughHow grief and joy can coexistWhy “process over outcome” changes everythingFinding your purpose when nothing makes senseThe truth about self-worth and imposter syndromeHow to be present in your own lifeFrom growing up in foster care to navigating loss, identity, and unexpected breakthroughs, Bourke shares the moments that shaped him and the mindset shifts that helped him rebuild.If you’ve been doing everything “right” but still feel off this is for you. Quick before you forget:You are not behind.You are not broken.You are becoming.Meaningful Moments: 00:00 – Faith, loss, and finding meaning again02:00 – Childhood, foster care, and the movie theater that changed everything07:00 – Feeling seen: the moment that reshaped his life09:30 – Finding “your people” and recognizing calling11:30 – Noise vs signal: how to actually find your path13:30 – “Adjust your antenna” (life-changing mindset)15:30 – Putting your oxygen mask on first17:30 – Grief, loss, and what it means to feel nothing20:00 – The truth about self-blame and inner narratives22:00 – The moment that saved his life24:00 – Why you might be “drowning” without realizing it26:00 – Parenting, patience, and learning from your kids29:00 – Rejection is protection (life-changing reframe)33:00 – Process over outcome (how to actually move forward)36:00 – How to deal with self-doubt and rejection40:00 – “Grief is the negative space that allows joy to shine”42:00 – Why you already are enough46:00 – The power of everyday human connection48:00 – Faith, “GUS” (God/Universe/Spirit), and staying open52:00 – Recognizing signs when you’re present56:00 – Lessons from working with Anthony Hopkins & Robert Duvall1:01:00 – Stop proving others wrong—prove yourself right1:03:00 – Comparison, creativity, and staying in your lane1:05:00 – The danger of chasing attention vs creating honestly1:07:00 – “You versus you” and why comparison kills creativity1:09:00 – What it means to create from truth instead of validation1:11:00 – The difference between being “nice” and being truly kind (deeper layer)1:13:00 – Truth, love, and the courage to say hard things1:15:00 – Why most people avoid honesty (and what it costs them)1:17:00 – Living in alignment vs performing for others1:19:00 – Letting go of needing approval1:21:00 – What it actually looks like to be authentic in real life1:23:00 – The role of discipline in becoming who you are1:25:00 – How to recognize when you’re out of alignment1:27:00 – The internal vs external version of success1:29:00 – Final reflections on presence, purpose, and people1:31:00 – “Quick Before You Forget” closing question + takeawayBourke Floyd's Mix TapeMr. Blue Sky, Electric Light Orchestra https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQUlA8Hcv4sDark Blue, Jack's Mannequin https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P5LjFkibA7w&list=RDP5LjFkibA7w&start_radio=1Mixed Tape, Jack's Mannequin https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WdW48xSbb9sMae, All Deliberate Speed https://open.spotify.com/track/6d303F6IYNa7bcE6DMo3LsCounting Crows, August And Everything After https://open.spotify.com/album/4nKfZbCALT9H9LfedtDwnZCounting Crows, Recovering the Satellites https://open.spotify.com/album/4YArB2Q848BDmmwUUumEFPSpecial thank you to Lazy Pickle Studios and Bourke Floyd for making the episode a reality.