How to Stop Over-Functioning & Heal Burnout with Nervous System Regulation | Lindsay Lockett | Mom Therapy

Nervous system regulation is the key to breaking the over-functioning cycle that's destroying your energy, your relationships, and your sense of self. In this episode, trauma educator and somatic coach Lindsay Lockett (host of Holistic Trauma Healing) explains exactly what's happening in your body when you can't stop doing, fixing, and managing everything for everyone around you.In this episode, you'll learn how to:Stop the anxiety loop of compulsive doing and hypervigilance with somatic awareness toolsRecognize over-functioning as a sympathetic fight/flight survival response — not your personalitySit with dopamine withdrawal when you stop people-pleasing and over-managingBreak the cycle of burnout, resentment, and emotional shutdown in your marriage and motherhoodUse integrity and authenticity as the compass for real nervous system healingIf you're Googling:IBS, brain fog, chronic fatigue, high-functioning anxiety, freeze response, rage, touched out, emotional numbness, or "why can't I relax" — this episode is for you.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome to Notes to My Nervous System01:24 – What over-functioning really looks like (and why it's not "Type A")04:15 – The nervous system science: sympathetic dominance & excess cortisol06:58 – Why your body is addicted to fixing — the dopamine loop explained10:31 – How to sit in the discomfort when you stop compulsive doing11:45 – The dopamine hit from solving other people's problems13:06 – Why you're socially rewarded for the thing that's burning you out16:28 – Hypervigilance: Why you track the tomato paste and your partner doesn't17:37 – Breaking the generational pattern with your kids24:28 – The wall: What happens when progress isn't enough33:05 – The real question: Would you still do it if nobody was watching?36:30 – Over-functioning and integrity — the missing link38:57 – Advice to your younger self: "Fuck around and find out" in authenticity44:24 – Nervous system reset & Mind Circuit app (formerly Ease)About the Guest:Lindsay Lockett is a trauma educator, somatic coach, and host of the Holistic Trauma Healing podcast. She helps women heal from trauma, nervous system dysregulation, and unconscious relational patterns through somatic practices and relational coaching.Resources:🧠 Download the Mind Circuit App ( Ease) — available on the App Store & Google Play. Try the Bilateral Stimulation (BLS) feature for anxiety relief between episodes.Our podcast is the audio companion to the Mind Circuit App, designed for daily nervous system resets. While the show explores the "why" of your patterns, the appprovides the "how" through:·       Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS): Powerfultools for anxiety reduction and emotional grounding.·       AI-Powered Mood Tracking: A data-driven wayto continue our "Real Conversations" privately.Start Your Reset TodayDownload Mind Circuit for Emotional Regulation & Somatic Tools: iOS App Store → Download NowGoogle Play → Download NowConnect & Listen: YouTube Music → Subscribe for Audio Resets (NewPlatform Growth)  @MindCircuitAppInstagram → @erin_notestomynervoussystemWebsite → mindcircuit.orgLegal & SafetyDisclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including "Mom Therapy" sessions—is for informationalpurposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship. The Mind Circuit app (Ease) is a self-help tool and is not a substitute for clinical treatment.Emergency Resources: If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please call or text 988 (US/Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room.© 2026 Erin Vandermore. All rights reserved.