How to Stop Over-Giving When Friendships Feel One-Sided | Episode 354

Send us Fan MailIn this week’s episode 354 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about social boundaries, over-functioning in friendships, and what happens when relationships quietly become dependent on your emotional labor, effort, and self-abandonment.When I first entered recovery, I thought my relationship struggles were mostly about romantic relationships. What I eventually realized was that many of the same codependent patterns were showing up in my friendships and colleague relationships too.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:How resentment can act as a diagnostic tool when it comes to boundariesWhat happens when you stop over-functioning and carrying relationships on your backThe difference between being valued as a person versus being valued for the emotional labor you provideWhy healthy relationships require mutuality, reciprocity, and movement toward each other from both peopleThe powerful realization that connection built on self-abandonment is not true connectionI also share personal experiences around always being the one initiating contact, maintaining relationships through anxiety and over-giving, and learning how to have more honest conversations instead of silently carrying resentment.This episode is a reminder that healthy connection is not about maintaining relationships at all costs. It’s about learning how to stay connected to yourself while also allowing other people to show up, invest, and choose you too.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole PodcastFeeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: Boundaries Drain QuizCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” SessionMost women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up.On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.