How to Stop People Pleasing in 2026

In this episode of Brave Moves, I dive into why people-pleasing is so common — and so costly — and how to stop it in a way that’s grounded, compassionate, and sustainable.People-pleasing isn’t about being nice. It’s often a learned nervous system response rooted in fear of disconnection, rejection, or conflict. In 2026, with hustle culture, constant availability, and digital pressure, this pattern is being reinforced more than ever.In this episode, I unpack the psychology and neuroscience behind people-pleasing, explain why it leads to burnout and resentment, and share practical ways to shift from external approval to internal alignment.In this episode, I cover:What people-pleasing really is (and what it isn’t)Why people-pleasing increases anxiety, stress, and emotional fatigueHow approval-seeking affects the nervous system and dopamine responseThe hidden cost of over-explaining and self-abandonmentThe difference between kindness and fear-based harmonyHow to communicate boundaries clearly and calmlyWhy regulation, not willpower, is the key to changeYour Brave Move:I invite you to pause before saying yes. If it’s not a clear yes, allow yourself to respond with “Let me think about it.” Sit with the discomfort instead of rescuing it — that’s how self-trust is built.Here is the book The Body Keeps the ScoreIf you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. Support the showJoin the CommunityBrave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum.If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time.Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends!Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review.For more about me and what I do, check out my website.If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs.Fo... This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit juliedeluccacollins.substack.com/subscribe