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EPISODE · Jul 16, 2025 · 1H 47M

How To Stop The Nice Guy Pandemic: JR Harvey Kings Community #286

from Set The Standard · host Corey Boutwell

Most men say they want purpose… but they’re actually addicted to struggle.In this episode, I sit down with JR Harvey founder of Kings Community and one of the most grounded, embodied mentors for men in the game to unpack what’s really keeping men stuck.We go deep on: • Why “managing pain” isn’t healing • The nervous system cost of constantly performing • Why men lead best when they stop trying to be liked • The addiction to helping others as a way to avoid yourself • And the real reason your relationship or leadership keeps collapsingThis conversation isn’t for the guys looking for more mindset hacks.This is for the men who are ready to actually feel, lead with clarity, and build something sacred from a solid nervous system not from pressure and pretend power.If you’re over the noise, stuck in your head, or feel like the leader version of you is hiding this one will flip the switch.⸻🔗 LINKS TO JR HARVEYKings Community → https://www.instagram.com/kings__community/🔗 LINKS TO COREYIG: https://www.instagram.com/coreyboutwell1:1 Coaching Application: https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoon⏱ TIMESTAMPS00:00 Intro – Meet JR Harvey01:12 Why Most Men Are Addicted to Pressure03:45 Nervous System vs Nervous System Games06:30 The Illusion of “Helping” While Avoiding Yourself09:01 Leading Without Performing12:20 What’s Under Your Need to Fix15:10 Why “Doing The Work” Can Be a Trap18:02 Sex, Shame, and Self-Betrayal22:49 Building Brotherhood From Authenticity25:50 The Real King Energy Men Are Missing29:30 Final Words for the Men Playing Small Apply here https://www.coreyboutwell.net/speaksoonWork With Me Here:  https://www.coreyboutwell.com/letsgoMake sure you listen to the podcasts all the way through to get your discount code. 

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Most men say they want purpose… but they’re actually addicted to struggle. In this episode, I sit down with JR Harvey founder of Kings Community and one of the most grounded, embodied mentors for men in the game to unpack what’s really keeping men stuck. We go deep on: • Why “managing pain” isn’t healing • The nervous system cost of constantly performing • Why men lead best when they stop trying to be liked • The addiction to helping others as a way to avoid yourself...

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