How to Strengthen Your Marriage with the Enneagram with Jackie Brewster

Hey friend!  We’re back again for Part 2 of our Enneagram series! We talk a lot around here about the importance of self-awareness. But how does self-awareness help us understand the people we have relationships with? Can a self-awareness tool like the Enneagram really impact our marriages for the better?  My friend Jackie Brewster is here to help us make that connection between self-awareness and understanding our partner! Jackie is a certified enneagram coach who uses the Enneagram to help individuals, couples, and teams get to know themselves better so they can love and serve others well. Her new book, The Enneagram, and Your Marriage: A 7-Week Guide to Better Understanding and Loving Your Spouse will help you apply this tool to the most important relationship in your life: your marriage.  Join in as Jackie and I discuss:   What to do if you love the Enneagram but your spouse does not That one thing that really communicates love to your spouse, based on their Enneagram type How defense mechanisms serve us, and how to identify them by type Why active listening is crucial for productive conversations (and what “active listening” actually means) Jackie Brewster is a certified Enneagram coach and author of The Enneagram and Your Marriage: A 7-Week Guide to Better Understanding and Loving Your Spouse.  Jackie and her husband, Stephen, have four children and live in Franklin, Tennessee. Favorite quotes: “Intimate relationships see a different side of us but our heart longings are the same whether it is an intimate partner or really good friendships.” “Enneagrams 2, 7, and 9 are in this positive outlook group. They try to minimize the tension, chaos, and confusion.” “Then you have got the Enneagrams 1’s, 3’s, and 5’s, and they are in the confidency group. They would prefer to deal with situations, conflict, and disappointment but also just situations from a more logical standpoint.” “The Enneagram numbers 4, 6, and 8, they are in this more reactive group. They have to deal with their emotions before they can move on.” “Active listening is such a gift that you can give to another person.” “Information is not transformation until you activate it.” Teaching Series from Remaining You While Raising Them: Habits The Power of 1% Better (34:20) Links to great things we discussed:  Jackie Brewster Website The Enneagram, and Your Marriage: A 7-Week Guide to Better Understanding and Loving Your Spouse Jackie Brewster Instagram Anne Wilson Dawson’s Creek 27 Dresses Ratatouille Soul Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships The Bible Recap The Bible Recap Podcast Good American Jeans Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli