How To Stress Less What Other People Think of You (This Insight CHANGED My Life!)

Whether we care to admit it or not, a lot of us waste A LOT of mental energy overthinking what other people think of us and include their opinions on our decision making criteria in life. And as I've learned the hard way, that's a one way ticket to a life that doesn't even really feel like yours. So why do so many of us fear being judged? And more importantly, how do we stop taking things so personally, even when we hear critical opinions about us?! That's exactly what we explore together in this episode and share with you the life changing example that my coach shared with me that FINALLY helped me breakfree from the grip of other people's opinions, and I am hopeful it'll help you have that same break through too!  If you're tired of family criticism about your choices, judgmental friends, or that constant voice in your head wondering if you're doing life "right"—this episode will be a breath of fresh air for you to finally chase that dream, make that change or to just be yourself without apology.  This isn't just another feel-good podcast; it's a roadmap to taking your power back, one deliberate thought at a time. If this episode hit you in the heart and you're ready to break free from the prison of other people's opinions, I want to personally help you. Book a free 30-minute coaching consult call with me (yes, WITH ME—not some team member). Visit my website here to submit for a coaching call with me! Bring whatever problem or struggle you're overthinking, and I'll walk you through exactly how to get unstuck. These spots are limited each week, and they're for you—the person who's tired of putting your dreams on hold because you're afraid of what someone might think. Schedule your a coaching call and let's create a life that makes YOU proud, regardless of anyone else's opinions. Because trust me, the view from the other side of fear? It's breathtaking. CLICK HERE to ORDER my book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to download a free chapter of my book to give it a read first? CLICK HERE. To hire me to speak at your organization or next event, visit https://www.kategladdin.com/  Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate welcomes listeners and shares her excitement about recording during a snowstorm. Keynote Speaker Experience (00:01:03)   Kate reflects on her recent speaking engagement in Indiana, focusing on resilience and confidence. Upcoming Speaking Engagements (00:01:50)   She discusses her upcoming talks in Las Vegas, Iowa, and Minnesota, emphasizing women's leadership. Importance of Practical Strategies (00:02:20)   Kate highlights the need for actionable strategies based on science to build confidence. Fear of Judgment (00:02:50)   She introduces the episode's main topic: how worrying about others' opinions erodes confidence. Taking Things Personally (00:03:32)   Kate discusses the challenge of not taking criticism personally, especially from close relationships. Understanding Human Nature (00:05:19)   She explains that the desire for acceptance is a natural human instinct. Responding to Negative Thoughts (00:06:10)   Kate shares strategies for managing automatic negative thoughts about others' judgments. Creating Emotional Space (00:07:00)   She emphasizes the importance of creating space between instinctive reactions and chosen responses. Book Reference (00:07:57)   Kate mentions a chapter from her book that addresses resilience and responding to fear. Reality of Judgment (00:08:53)   She acknowledges that judgment is inevitable and reflects on how often we assess others. Taking Opinions Personally (00:09:50)   Kate discusses the tendency to take others' opinions personally and its impact on decision-making. Example of Perception (00:10:44)   She illustrates how different people can have varying opinions about the same person. Judgment Reflects Insecurities (00:13:44)   Kate explains that others' judgments often stem from their own insecurities and experiences. Self-Reflection on Fear (00:14:44)   She encourages listeners to identify areas in their lives where fear of judgment holds them back. Redirecting Focus (00:15:39)   Kate emphasizes the importance of redirecting focus from others' opinions to personal decisions. Embracing Diversity of Opinions (00:16:37)   She discusses the value of differing opinions and preferences in making life interesting. Authenticity Over Approval (00:17:24)   Kate concludes with a reminder to be true to oneself rather than seeking external validation. Understanding Feedback and Opinions (00:18:13)   Explores how to evaluate feedback from others without letting it overshadow personal beliefs. The Fear of Judgment (00:19:20)   Discusses the instinct of loved ones to protect us from failure and its impact on our decisions. Pursuing Passion Over Comfort (00:20:18)   Shares a personal story about choosing passion over a stable career path despite external doubts. Gratitude for Courage (00:21:22)   Encourages listeners to appreciate their past courage in pursuing meaningful goals despite fear. The Reality of Support (00:22:31)   Acknowledges that not everyone will support our dreams and that's acceptable. Living True to Yourself (00:23:30)   Emphasizes the importance of prioritizing one's own opinion over others' judgments in achieving success. Coaching Opportunity (00:24:42)   Offers a free coaching consult to help listeners overcome obstacles and take action towards their goals. Invitation to Connect (00:25:43)   Encourages listeners to reach out for coaching and follow on social media for further inspiration.