How to Support Someone Without Giving Unsolicited Advice

When someone we love is struggling, our instinct is often to fix, reassure, or advise — but resonance almost always has to come first. In this episode, Katherine responds to a client question about how to offer resonance instead of advice, even in our closest relationships, where the stakes (and the temptation to fix) run highest. She walks through what resonance actually sounds like, how to sit with your own impulse to advise before you can set it aside, and why asking consent before offering resonance matters more than most of us realize. Along the way: a moment with an old friend grappling with grief, two unexpected metaphors (one involving flashlights, one echolocation), and a reminder that resonance doesn't require getting it perfect — just staying curious.