How to Talk About Sexual Preferences Without Killing the Mood

How can you tell if a new partner shares your turn-ons — without making it awkward?In this episode, I answer a listener question about casual sex, power dynamics, and the kind of miscommunication that can happen when you don’t talk about your turn-ons out loud. We unpack a qualitative study on how people in BDSM communities use tech (like texting) to express desires, set boundaries, and build trust — especially when things are new or casual.You’ll learn:Why even light power play requires clear communicationHow texting about sex can build connection, not kill itHow to talk about your turn-ons — including different submission styles — without overexplainingThe study covered in this episode is: Sometimes It’s Easier to Type Things Than to Say Them: Technology in BDSM Sexual Partner Communication by Hamm et al., published in Sexuality & Culture.Interested in my services? Check them out hereJoin my 1:1 online program Re:Desire here.Do you want to submit a listener question for the podcast? Here's the link