Somatic Therapist: How Trauma Lives in the Body, Shapes Your Relationships & Drives Self-Abandonment in Women

Send us Fan MailWhat if the reason your relationship feels hard isn’t because you’re doing it wrong, but because your nervous system never learned how to feel safe?In this deeply honest and grounding conversation, Hope is joined by Becky Aste, a trauma-informed marriage coach and host of the top 3% podcast Your Breakthrough Blueprint.Becky shares her personal journey from rock bottom—two kids, separation, and the brink of divorce—to a thriving, deeply connected marriage through somatic healing, nervous system regulation, and rebuilding safety in the body.We unpack why knowing the tools isn’t the same as embodying them, how attachment styles silently run our relationships, and why self-abandonment is often the deepest (and most overlooked) wound women carry.If you’ve done the therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts, and still feel stuck in the same relational patterns, this episode will land differently. This is about healing from the neck down, reconnecting with your body, and learning how to stay with yourself without self-betrayal.🔍 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why information alone doesn’t heal trauma and what actually doesHow somatic healing helps move trauma out of the body, not just the mindThe difference between anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment stylesHow self-abandonment forms (often subconsciously) and how it shows up in relationshipsSimple, powerful nervous system regulation tools you can use immediatelyWhy relationships are one of the most potent portals for healingHow to navigate triggers without over-thinking or self-gaslightingWhat “earned secure attachment” really means and how to cultivate itWhy small, seemingly “basic” practices create massive transformation over timeHow self-compassion, safety, and embodiment change the way you love and relate🔗 Resources & Links MentionedFollow Becky on Instagram: 👉 https://www.instagram.com/becky_asteListen to Becky’s podcast, Your Breakthrough Blueprint: 👉 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Tj0dnCZJyQyrGcFK8gsoZLearn more about Becky’s work: 👉 https://www.idobreakthrough.comBook recommendation referenced: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk🌿 About BeckyBecky Aste is a trauma-informed marriage coach and host of the top 3% podcast Your Breakthrough Blueprint, where she and high-impact guests share the real frameworks behind their biggest breakthroughs.As the founder of I Do Breakthrough, Becky helps ambitious wives move trauma out of the body so they can reconnect and thrive in marriage, and in every other area of life.After hitting rock bottom in her own relationship—two kids, separation, and the brink of divorce—somatic healing changed everything. Today, Becky helps women turn breakdowns into breakthroughs by rebuilding safety, self-trust, and embodied connection from the inside out.Connect with me on Instagram and tell me what you think!For some more free resources to help you on your journey, click HERE to download my Guide to Seed Cycling and HERE for my guide on Minerals for Chakra Balancing and Longevity (a personal favorite because mineral balancing is my jam!)