How Trauma Shows Up in Your Relationships: Interview with Joelle Maletis Ep. 30

Today we have a special guest, trauma expert and psychotherapist Joelle Maletis where we reflect on the intricacies of the breakup process, emphasising the natural tendency to swing between self-blame and blaming the other person. The importance of introspection and finding a middle ground is discussed, acknowledging the role of both partners in a relationship. Unpacking Trauma and Identifying Core Beliefs The conversation delves into Joelle's personal experience of dealing with trauma during a breakup. Insights are shared on how acknowledging and admitting to trauma can be the first step towards healing. The importance of identifying core beliefs and challenging negative thoughts is highlighted. Strategies for Those Unable to Afford Therapy For listeners who may be unable to afford therapy, Joelle offers practical advice. We discuss the availability of free resources, reputable online therapy options, and self-help workbooks. The emphasis is on credible sources and tailored solutions for individual needs. Breaking Patterns and Raising Self-Worth We address the common theme of individuals repeatedly choosing unhealthy partners. Strategies for breaking such patterns are explored, focusing on self-awareness and the importance of challenging negative core beliefs to raise self-worth. Self-Care and Healing Post-Breakup The discussion shifts towards the significance of self-care and healing during the early stages of a breakup. Joelle provides insights into the individualised nature of self-soothing practices, emphasising the need for self-awareness and the avoidance of rumination. Co-Parenting Through Divorce Joelle shares personal experiences of navigating divorce and co-parenting. The challenges of maintaining boundaries, resetting relationships, and the grief associated with the end of a marriage are explored. Strategies for effective co-parenting are discussed. Overcoming Challenges in Co-Parenting The conversation delves deeper into the challenges faced during co-parenting. She reflects on the necessity of therapy, the evolution of boundaries, and the emotional toll of maintaining daily interactions with an ex-spouse. The Weight of Guilt and Shame: Joelle shared a poignant example of someone carrying guilt and shame from a past action, leading to challenges in subsequent relationships, and emphasised the complexity of unpacking emotional baggage and the need for self-reflection. Tune in to a powerful and insightful episode that will leave you with more in-depth understanding of how you can navigate your relationships and healing. SHOW LINKS Grab the Journal: AUSTALIA: https://www.amazon.com.au UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk USA: https://www.amazon.com/ Connect with Joelle On Instagram: @official.joelle.trauma.therapy Free Mental Health Resources: National Institute of Mental Health: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/ Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ Visit Joelle's website: https://joellerabowmaletis.com/