So how unsafe can a family possibly be? This is the Daily Disturbance vloggas with Anthony Fungini Men. Very big of this function, and it's a family problem. Robert Downey Jr.
By the way, I'm not home right now in there. Not using the usual mic and studio that I'm in, but I think more than the passion for productivity and excellence is authenticity, realness. And that's what I hope to continue to be. So it's Monday, and we look at how unsafe families can actually be as we look at family issues this week.
Well, we were unsafe and can be occasionally. But in particular, with our first baby, Ella, with no experience at all. In spite of all the studying, we were really unprepared. So in a sense, Ella was our guinea pig.
And looking back, oh my gosh, the mistakes, well-meaning, good intentions, but wrong approaches, we took the advice that came from people whom we thought knew what they were doing, which turned out unhelpful and at times even damaging. I mean, not just Ella, right, but to every child, even my own experience as a young boy. Guinea pigs, all we are, right, to experimenting parents. I remember, you know, just how knowledgeable we were.
Is she still alive? I got it that way, she's still breathing. How do you feed this girl? Who will do what?
Me, my wife, my wife, how do you discipline? How not to eventually learn to? Who to listen to and who not to as well? How to pretend it?
But you're listening to those who you don't really want to. I love what George Burns said. Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city. We didn't go in giraffe, I'm not sure if I shared this.
I think I did once, but I think it's appropriate now. When it gives birth, the baby falls maybe nine, 10 feet to the ground because the mother stands up, even if she gives birth. Can you imagine your entrance if you were the baby into this world? And as you try to stand up, you will find out as you restrict your watch videos that the mother will actually kick the baby several times.
And when the baby finally makes it, stands up, the mother whispers to her or him, let's get going, the lions are coming. If the giraffe, baby giraffe, did not get that lesson early on, it would have been served for breakfast. And many of life lessons will come through difficulty and sometimes mistakes by the people who are supposed to be loving us dearly. But it remains true that the best comforters to troubled marriages are those who have had challenged marriages themselves.
In the best, volunteers we've seen to our different democracies for the youth are those who overcame and are still overcoming painful experiences in their lives. And I quote, deep inside us, we know what every family therapist knows, the problems being the parents become, the problems within the children are known. But then again, those who have the right attitude and spirit, regardless of what they have gone through, become the biggest value to future children, future teenagers and couples and parents going through similar problems. When Maricela and I, Maricela in particular, apologize to Ella for all our mistakes being our firstborn, she said, that's okay, I don't remember them anymore, but you know we're gonna have a baby soon.
You and daddy have your fifth and that's Solana. We can start, all start together. Again, parenting and taking care of Solana. Let me close with Desmond Tutu's wonderful quote that he don't choose your family.
Dear God, it's gift to you as you are to them.