How We Develop Our Self Narrative In The Context Of Regret

Mark starts off with some context about what our podcast is all about. Sharing opinions and experiences with men to help them live a more fulfilled life He introduces the topics of self-regret and self narrative and hopes for some humorous angles Jim brings up the wheel and how we always start with self awareness He talks about the power of reading the definitions. He says if you don't have regrets you aren't very self aware "the most important conversation you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself" Mark says regret and a bad narrative can eat you alive if you aren't aware of it's power. He says seeking blame is regressive Jim talks about learning from regrets and mistakes.  It's not what happens to you, it's how you respond to what happens to you. I'd rather die trying than live with the regret of not trying Mark says it's a balancing act between self awareness and misery. Your inner voice is powerful…one way or another Jim shares how he is often angry at himself and tries to be careful not protecting that on others Mark shares the work he's doing on his own narrative around his future self and how at ease he feels. His friends have noticed Mark shares his regret about not firing his divorce attorney sooner Jim asks to break it down and offers his own story…helping someone else instead of himself Mark gives his example about multiple choice quizzes in school Mark shares how scared and angry he was during his divorce and how it clouded his judgement Jim calls it trauma - flight, fight or freeze Don't wish it was easier, wish you were better Jim cites opportunities exist in the learning from the regret or mistake Mark shares some sports related regrets and how easy it would have been to hang on. Jim shares his opinion about sports in his life They both share the cultures they were around. Jim's as winning and Mark's was losing Jim talks about asking for help, not asking, asking the wrong people… Mark puts his divorce in perspective and see's the wonderful side of it - his three kids Mark shares his formula for a solid self narrative If you want to be successful, notice your successes The guys agree that we have a hard time noticing our success Jim talks about gratitude Meditation and living in the present Mark share his morning meditation today and he was all over the place but able to come back to present Mark shares a conversation with his younger brother about his divorce regarding how well he handled it Jim quotes - All comparison leads to misery Mark talks about how comparison is in your face now all day thru social m media. You have to be careful Jim talks about being cautious about putting yourself out there on social media Nobody really wants to know how good you're doing Mark talks about observations and assessment not what you've done Jim says people remember how you make them feel and Reminds us that it's better to be kind than nice Jim tells a story about his friend regarding…has the world changed or is it the stage of life we are at. We're running out of time and you don't want to waste it on people with bad energy…or politics Mark agrees it's both. What he sees missing today is accountability People are doing things wrong today and not getting in trouble Mark ends with "I don't know waaayyy more than I know"