Hummingbird to Hawk; "Results" Driven or Relational Driven

Send us Fan MailHave you ever wondered why you're constantly running at full speed, checking boxes, and still feeling unfulfilled? That nagging sensation might be telling you something profound about how you're wired.In this deeply personal episode, I take you on a journey that began with a chance encounter at Mount Rushmore and a subsequent motorcycle trip that changed everything. When I met Alan, a retired LAPD motor officer with a methodical, unhurried approach to life, my high-speed, performance-driven personality immediately clashed with his hawk-like perspective. His words hit me like a revelation: "You are like a hummingbird. You flap your wings really fast, get involved in a little bit of everything... Hummingbirds die early because their hearts beat a thousand miles an hour."Through therapy and self-reflection, I've come to understand the critical difference between being results-driven and performance-driven. Many of us who pride ourselves on productivity are actually seeking the applause, the validation, the recognition that comes from visibly achieving. We judge those who work at a measured pace, who prioritize relationships over tasks, who clock out on time—yet they often lead happier, healthier lives.For twenty years, I ran my engine "in the red," nearly losing my job, my family, and myself in the process. Now I'm learning that slowing down isn't failure—it's salvation. The adventure truly does begin where the plans end, but making that transition isn't easy when performance has been your identity for decades.Whether you're a hummingbird desperate to slow down or a hawk trying to understand the frantic energy around you, this episode offers perspective on finding balance in an achievement-obsessed world. Share your own journey from performance to relationship by reaching out at murders2music@gmail.com.www.StreamlineEventsLLC.comwww.DoubleDownDuo.com@StreamlineSEE@DDownDuoYoutube-Instagram-Facebook