I Abandoned Myself to Be Loved | The Cost of Losing Your Authenticity

Being authentic sounds simple, until it costs you belonging, approval, or love. In this episode, Bexx and Noie unpack what it really means to stay true to yourself when family dynamics, relationships, religion, and roles quietly pressure you to shrink. Through childhood stories, relationship reckoning, and moments of brutal self-awareness, they explore how easily authenticity can be lost, and how hard it is to reclaim once you abandon it.From growing up in chaotic environments to navigating guilt, morality, and self-betrayal in adult relationships, this conversation dives into the emotional and physical consequences of not listening to yourself. Bexx opens up about self-abandonment driven by shame and the moment she realized forgiveness—not punishment—was the path forward. Together, they challenge the idea of rigid identities, question toxic affirmations, and make a powerful case for honoring who you are in every season of life—especially in motherhood, partnership, and healing.Chapters [Start] What Authenticity Really Means: Bexx and Noie open the conversation by unpacking how easily we confuse adaptation with self-erasure, and why knowing who you are matters more than fitting in.06:45 Becoming a Chameleon to Survive: From childhood friendships to family dynamics, they explore how learning to blend in can become a survival skill.16:15 Guilt, Shame, and Self-Abandonment: Bexx reflects on how guilt can push us to betray our own values, and why self-punishment often feels justified in moments of deep remorse.24:10 When Identity Becomes a Cage: Roles, labels, and affirmations are meant to guide us but what happens when they limit us instead?36:25 Never Sacrifice Authenticity at Any Cost:  The anxiety, depression, and disconnection that come from abandoning your truth, and why reclaiming authenticity is essential for mental health, relationships, and long-term peace.Links and ResourcesConnect With & Follow UsInstagram:Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie