"I Feel Like a Liar. Am I Marrying the Wrong Person?"

(Watch this episode on YouTube.) Today’s episode is all about the thrilling yet sometimes messy and confusing world of crushes. We’ve got three letters: "I have a pattern of falling for people who are unavailable. Should I tell my new friend that I have a crush on her, even though she's in a longterm relationship?" "I told my coworker I had feelings for him. I think he has feelings for me too but...he has a girlfriend." "I'm engaged to my boyfriend of 7 years, but I have a relentless crush on someone new. Should I still get married?" Send your letters to [email protected]. 0:00 What to expect in this video 00:47 This week’s letters  1:22 Letter 1: “Can I be friends with my crush?” 2:50 Response to Letter 1 begins  4:43 How we use B&W thinking to protect ourselves 9:00 Failure is not regression  12:21 Script: “We can’t be friends”  13:02 Letter 2: “I’m in love with my co-worker” 14:45 Response to Letter 2 begins 15:55 What’s spiking my Hayesy senses  18:30 Stop hoping he’s going to change  20:59 Finding the love you deserve 21:31 Letter 3: “I’m not sure I want to marry my fiance”  22:43 Response begins  24:45 Pros of couple therapy  25:41 Hayes’s thoughts on “forever” 27:25 “Relationships are hard” 28:00 What your crush means Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices