I Found Out My Best Friend Got Married on Instagram

Ring, ring! It's 1-800-BRIDESMAID. Author and pro bridesmaid Jen Glantz brings her hit newsletter to life in this judgment-free zone for all your messy, real wedding, love, and friendship dilemmas—plus expert advice to help sort them out. This week, Jen is joined by Alyssa Pettinato, a NYC-based event planner and host of Miss Judged, who has seen it all—from chaotic wedding days to complicated relationships—and isn’t afraid to say the quiet part out loud. Together, they get into the reality behind weddings and relationships: why getting married doesn’t fix anything, what really happens when couples ignore red flags, and how weddings can bring underlying issues to the surface. But today’s listener question hits close to home. A woman writes in after discovering her best friend of 16 years secretly got married—and she found out on Instagram. No invite. No heads up. No explanation. Now she’s left wondering: is this still a friendship worth holding onto… or is this the moment everything changes? Episode Highlights: • Why weddings can amplify relationship doubts and hidden issues • The pressure to get married—and why it’s not always the right move • Alyssa’s own broken engagement and what she learned from it • The biggest red flags to watch for before saying “yes” • Why friendships can hurt more than romantic relationships • How to handle being excluded from a major life moment • When it’s time to have the hard conversation… or walk away If you’ve ever questioned a relationship, felt left out by a friend, or wondered if you’re forcing something that doesn’t feel right—this episode is full of honesty, perspective, and the kind of advice you actually need.