I gave blow jobs so I wouldn't have to have sex – Danielle

Danielle is a 41-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, Jewish, heteroflexible, married and monogamous. Danielle and her husband Adam host the podcast Marriage and Martinis, where they explore every hilarious, heartfelt, shocking, embarrassing, and completely inappropriate facet of marriage and parenting. Major themes in this episode include how OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) affected Danielle's early experience of sex, how we allow our assumptions of what other people think affect our actions and decisions, and how sex changes after marriage and kids. Making out with boys in 7th grade for a sense of belonging rather than pleasure Danielle's experience with a type of OCD called scrupulosity The cultural pressure to lose our virginity The mismatch between Danielle's body image and how her body actually looked Does the number of partners we have equal the amount of sexual "experience" we have? How Danielle's sexual relationship with her husband changed after having kids A sexual experience Danielle would love to have, but doesn't think her relationship could handle it The audio extras for this episode are: An extended conversation about body image and how it affects her relationship with her husband The extended Q&A Resources mentioned in this episode: The Tenga Egg – a GREAT toy to use on a partner with a penis!   Update:  Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak