I hate rapists. I also think the way Nigerians talk about rape online is making it worse.

Every year in Nigeria, something happens. A woman is assaulted. The internet erupts. And then — nothing changes.Koke thinks part of the reason nothing changes is because of how the conversation is being had.In this episode, he makes a clear, uncomfortable argument: rapists are not men. They are rapists. And when the response to sexual violence lumps all men together, it doesn't just feel unfair — it actively pushes away the men who have both the motivation and the physical agency to prevent rape from happening in the first place.He shares a real story, a false rape accusation that nearly destroyed someone close to him, and asks the question most people are afraid to: why is the same level of outrage that greets male perpetrators absent when women act badly?This is not a defense of rapists. It is an argument for a smarter, more effective way to fight them.Come with an open mind. Leave a comment with your take.—Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube. Share it with someone who'll argue with you about it.