“I have many regrets. Did I miss God’s will?”

How can I know if I’m chosen by God? I don’t have many friendships and wonder if it’s my fault? What should I do? Why did Jesus oh seem to hesitate but then miraculously make wine for the Cana wedding? Does the Holy Spirit help us keep the Law? Does He help us keep the Sermon on the Mount? I struggle with judging other people. How can I think differently? What is God’s will? How can I process past regrets in a healthy way? Are we close to the sixth trumpet?