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EPISODE · Feb 27, 2026 · 30 MIN

“I Learned Forgiveness by Refusing to Forgive” with Tara Howley and Alexa Kistler

from The Art of Accomplishment · host Alexa Kistler, Tara Howley

Forgiveness is one of the most charged words in our culture. For many of us, it was coerced out of us as children or held up as something good people do. But what if forgiveness isn't about being good or letting someone off the hook? In this episode, Alexa Kistler and Tara Howley reframe forgiveness as an act of self-care, a way to reopen your heart without abandoning your boundaries. They discuss: Why coerced forgiveness misses the point Forgiveness as a three-step process: emotions, curiosity, and boundaries How boundaries make forgiveness possible The difference between forgiving someone and wanting to be around them What it means to forgive yourself Holding forgiveness as sacred without making it an obligation Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!  Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson  Brett on X: @airkistler  AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com  We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Forgiveness is one of the most charged words in our culture. For many of us, it was coerced out of us as children or held up as something good people do. But what if forgiveness isn't about being good or letting someone off the hook? In this episode, Alexa Kistler and Tara Howley reframe forgiveness as an act of self-care, a way to reopen your heart without abandoning your boundaries. They discuss: - Why coerced forgiveness misses the point - Forgiveness as a three-step process: emotions, curiosity, and boundaries - How boundaries make forgiveness possible - The difference between forgiving someone and wanting to be around them - What it means to forgive yourself - Holding forgiveness as sacred without making it an obligation

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