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EPISODE · Nov 16, 2025 · 38 MIN

I Look Successful, But I Still Feel Behind [W&S 146]

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Feeling like you’re behind in your 30s or 40s… even though, on paper, you’ve done everything “right”?Dive into that quiet mid-career ache: when the promotions, pay raises, house, family and “LinkedIn wins” still don’t stop you from feeling… not enough.🎧 Tune in if you’ve ever caught yourself scrolling LinkedIn thinking,“Everyone else is sprinting ahead. What am I doing with my life?”Here’s what we’ll explore:- Why mid-career success can still feel strangely empty – even when you’ve ticked most of society’s boxes.- The invisible pressure of LinkedIn & humblebrags – and how constant comparison messes with your self-worth.- Internal vs external success – are you chasing your own definition… or a script handed to you by parents, school, or culture?- When your job title is your identity – what happens when retrenchment, restructuring, or redundancy hits.- How to start decoupling your worth from your work – small mindset shifts to move from “never enough” to more grounded contentment.- Why life purpose often gets louder in your 30s & 40s – and how to listen to it before burnout forces you to.👥 Our guests this week:- Michelle Mah – a psychotherapist and coach in her second career, who works with high performers that “look like they’re winning” on the outside but struggle with meaning and self-worth on the inside.- Esther Koh – a senior HR leader in the financial services industry, as well as an ontological coach, parenting coach and counsellor, who’s led transformation at work while navigating caregiving, loss, and redefining success on her own terms.If you’ve ever wondered, “Who am I without my job title or my pay slip?”…this episode is your permission slip to find out.---🎧 The Financial Coconut: Your weekly source for empowering financial knowledge and unlocking possibilities. We explore personal finance, investing, and entrepreneurship to help you build a richer life. Join us as we explore personal finance, investing and more.Get ready to take control of your financial future and live your best life, financially wise: https://linkin.bio/thefinancialcoconut🔗 CONNECT WITH USGet daily tips, insights, and community:InstagramTikTokTelegramWhatsappNewsletter📺 MORE FROM OUR NETWORKDiscover our other shows and deep dives on YouTube⚠️ Disclaimer:The content discussed in this episode is intended for educational purposes only and should not be considered as financial advice. The information provided is based on our understanding at the time of recording and may not reflect the current regulations or market conditions. The opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily represent those of The Financial Coconut. Please do your due diligence before making any investment or financial decisions.Help us get to know you better: http://bit.ly/thefinancialcoconut-survey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Feeling like you’re behind in your 30s or 40s… even though, on paper, you’ve done everything “right”?Dive into that quiet mid-career ache: when the promotions, pay raises, house, family and “LinkedIn wins” still don’t stop you from feeling… not enough.🎧 Tune in if you’ve ever caught yourself scrolling LinkedIn thinking,“Everyone else is sprinting ahead. What am I doing with my life?”Here’s what we’ll explore:- Why mid-career success can still feel strangely empty – even when you’ve ticked most of society’s boxes.- The invisible pressure of LinkedIn & humblebrags – and how constant comparison messes with your self-worth.- Internal vs external success – are you chasing your own definition… or a script handed to you by parents, school, or culture?- When your job title is your identity – what happens when retrenchment, restructuring, or redundancy hits.- How to start decoupling your worth from your work – small mindset shifts to move from “never enough” to more grounded contentment.- Why life purpose often gets louder in your 30s & 40s – and how to listen to it before burnout forces you to.👥 Our guests this week:- Michelle Mah – a psychotherapist and coach in her second career, who works with high performers that “look like they’re winning” on the outside but struggle with meaning and self-worth on the inside.- Esther Koh – a senior HR leader in the financial services industry, as well as an ontological coach, parenting coach and counsellor, who’s led transformation at work while navigating caregiving, loss, and redefining success on her own terms.If you’ve ever wondered, “Who am I without my job title or my pay slip?”…this episode is your permission slip to find out.---🎧 The Financial Coconut: Your weekly source for empowering financial knowledge and unlocking possibilities. We explore personal finance, investing, and entrepreneurship to help you build a richer life. Join us as we explore personal finance, investing and more.Get ready to take control of your financial future and live your best life, financially wise: https://linkin.bio/thefinancialcoconut🔗 CONNECT WITH USGet daily tips, insights, and community:InstagramTikTokTelegramWhatsappNewsletter📺 MORE FROM OUR NETWORKDiscover our other shows and deep dives on YouTube⚠️ Disclaimer:The content discussed in this episode is intended for educational purposes only and should not be considered as financial advice. The information provided is based on our understanding at the time of recording and may not reflect the current regulations or market conditions. The opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily represent those of The Financial Coconut. Please do your due diligence before making any investment or financial decisions.Help us get to know you better: http://bit.ly/thefinancialcoconut-survey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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