I Loved Myself & Finally Said I'm Done

You know that line in Bridget Jones's Diary… when Mark Darcy says, “I like you very much, just the way you are”? Yeah. We all melt.But here’s the real question: Do you?In this episode, we’re talking about self-love. Not the Instagram version. Not the bubble baths and face masks (although we love those too). I’m talking about the real, grounded, sometimes hard version of self-love. The kind that shows up when everything is falling apart. I share the story of the moment I finally chose myself. After years of back and forth, leaving and returning, I reached a point where I didn’t need someone else to stay… because I had finally stayed for me.We talk: Why self-love isn’t just “treating yourself”… it’s consistency and self-devotion The difference between caring for yourself and being kind to yourself (you need both) How self-love gives you the strength to walk away from what no longer serves you A simple but powerful exercise using a photo of your younger self CHAPTERS:00:00 Self love question do you love yourself?01:00 Story choosing yourself after repeated heartbreak02:30 Building habits that led to self love04:00 Choosing yourself and walking away fully04:45 What self love actually looks like06:00 Consistency devotion and being kind to yourself07:00 Practicing self love on hard days08:30 Healing reconnecting and loving yourself again10:00 Final message self love is daily practiceInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheilaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@smalltalkwithsheilaTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheilaI also share one of the books that supported me during this time: Radical Awakening. If you’re in a season of coming back to yourself, it’s a powerful one.And yes… I recorded this episode on one of those days. Nothing working. Camera issues. Internet down. Fully not in the mood. And still… I showed up. For you, but more importantly, for me. Because that’s what self-love looks like in real life.We also talk about Sex and the City, the movie— specifically Carrie after everything falls apart, and how her assistant Louise (played by Jennifer Hudson) helps her come back to herself. That’s the kind of love we’re building here.You can choose yourself… right now.If this episode landed for you, share it with your friends. Send it to someone who needs a reminder to stop abandoning themselves. Send it to someone who needs to come back home to who they are.And I mean it… I want to see little you. Send me your baby photos. DM me. Email me. Drop them in the comments. I want to know: what does loving that version of you look like? 🤍Watch the romcom live:Or email me directly at [email protected] Credits "rolling like a romcom"Production and audience development by PodVisionCreated, written, and hosted by Sheila KazanExecutive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila KazanEmotional Support and Occasional Reality Check: Hezi (my husband)Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup)No bubble baths were required in the making of this episode. A woman choosing herself was.This romcom is just getting started. 🤍