I, Not You: Agency in Experience-Based Talking

One of the first things I'll do in a session is interrupt you.Not because what you're saying isn't true - but because the way you're saying it is quietly letting you distance yourself from your own agency."When that happens, you end up reaching for your phone." "When you're stressed, you start talking faster."I'll stop you here. I don't do that. Say I.It's a small correction. What it does is not small. This episode is about what that shift actually grounds you towards - and why your relationship to your own behaviour changes the moment you stop describing it from the safe distance of 3rd person's pov.