I Quit Half My Goals and My Life Got Better

Three months in, and your goals failed? Good. Here's what to do instead.

This is Part 2 of the Messy Life Reset. Trust me, this is the perfect time... after the "new year motivation" has well and truly worn off.

But first... listen to Episode 1, Master Your Mess in 3 Days, for part one of your reset!

Grab your FREE Messy Life Reset Workbook:  click here

This reset is for you if:

• You’ve ever felt that everyone got a manual for life, and yours is from Temu and it smells funny. (Same)
• It’s the beginning of the year but you’re already feeling behind, burnt out and like you’re barely holding it together.
• You’re trying to stick to a routine that’s not achievable or realistic (hello guilt).

In this episode:

• My guide for messy minds to reset for the year ahead
• Why your "best self" is actually perfectionism in disguise (and what to chase instead)
• The reflection exercise that made me nearly cry on mic... three mirrors, three versions of yourself
• The one-question filter that exposes which goals are actually yours
• The three non-negotiable days that I want you to schedule into your planner to help you reset and get back on track.
• What to do when a goal stops fitting... and the 5 signs it was never yours to begin with
• Plot Points: a smarter way to plan your year (mine are meal prep and guitar. That's the whole list.)

Your workbook: 

Grab your FREE Messy Life Reset Workbook: click here

Giveaway

To celebrate being back, I’m giving you the chance to win one of five $100 Steph Pase Planners vouchers! Simply share a photo or video to Instagram of yourself listening to Stephing Up, and tag both @stephpase_ and @stephing.up . Winners will be announced on 31 March 2026.

Timestamps: 00:00 You're not afraid of failure... you're afraid of being watched

03:18 Life update: editing my life, guitar, colour seasons

07:47 Quick recap of the 3-Day Reset from Part 1

09:07 Why "happiest self" beats "best self" (and it's not a small difference)

10:58 My best self equals perfect. It's perfectionism.

12:30 The filter question that changes everything

13:04 The Three Mirrors Exercise: healthiest, most successful, truest self

18:58 Tall poppy syndrome and being uncomfortable with your own wins

21:34 My dad never got to retire. That rewrote my definition of success.

23:05 Stagnation is OK. Rest can be the goal.

24:18 Plot Points: how to plan your year like a story

27:00 Categories: personal, home, relationships, health, business, hobbies

33:06 Why I dropped from 10K steps to 8K (and actually stuck to it)

36:20 5 signs your goal was never really yours

40:30 Thank God spin class got cancelled. That calm? That's your answer.

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I’m Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised best bogan friend in your ears. This podcast is about growth that’s messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn’t go to plan. We’ll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.

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