I thought being strong meant never being vulnerable - Shana

Shana is a 41-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as biracial (half black/half white), heterosexual, monogamous and currently in a relationship. Major themes explored in this episode include healing from old hurts, learning about consent, and discovering our own pleasure, rather than just focusing on pleasing our partner. How she came to relate running late to eroticism Her first sexual experience, and how it conditioned her to not trust white men The moment Shana first had intercourse and why it was so devastating … and why she pretended it was okay Why Shana has never felt comfortable calling that experience rape The expectation that women are supposed to please their partner and not ask for anything The conversation she had with her current lover after their first time having sex How tenderness and masculinity go hand-in-hand The audio extras for this episode are: An extended conversation with Shana about how two men decided whether or not she had been raped, and how listening to other women tell their #MeToo stories has helped her The extended Q&A   Update:  Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak