I Thought I Was the Healthy One

Many people come to therapy because they know something is wrong. Devorah's story was different. She was successful, capable, independent, and by all appearances doing well. She thought of herself as the strong one — the person who didn't need anyone. Therapy wasn't something she felt she needed. If anything, she was simply curious about it. After the birth of her second child, she attended therapy for the first time. It was helpful, practical, and focused on navigating a difficult season of life. When things improved, therapy ended and she moved on.  A few years later, new struggles emerged. This time, she felt something deeper was happening. She entered therapy expecting to gain insight and find solutions. Instead, she found herself questioning long-held beliefs about independence, vulnerability, attachment, and what it means to need other people. In this conversation, we discuss: what happens when independence becomes part of your identity discovering needs you never knew you had attachment, vulnerability, and shame why therapy can feel so threatening the experience of becoming attached to a therapist repair, trust, and therapeutic relationships how therapy can change the way we relate to ourselves, others, and even to Hashem This is a conversation about healing, attachment, and the courage it takes to question a story you've believed about yourself for a very long time. Your Voice Matters If this episode brought something up for you and you'd like to share a reflection or response, you're invited to do so below: Click here to leave feedback You can share as much or as little as you want, and you can remain anonymous. Continue the conversation: I share reflections on attachment, trauma, and the therapy relationship on Instagram @shayahecht About H.I.P. Counseling Center: Learn more about our trauma-informed practice and offerings at www.hipcounseling.com or on instagram @hipcounselingcenter.  Subscribe & Review: If this conversation resonated with you, please subscribe to the HIP Podcast on your favorite podcast app. Leaving a review helps others who need to hear these stories find their way here.