I thought our sex life was perfect, until he for new things – Shasta

Shasta is a 45-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as Canadian First Nation/Cree, heterosexual, monogamous, and married to her husband who she has been with for 20 years. Major themes in this episode include balance of power in heterosexual relationships, bedroom boredom in a long-term relationship, and working to heal childhood issues as an adult You can find Shasta online at www.ShastaTownsend.com. Her book, Happy, Sexy, Shameless – What Our Mother's Didn't Know About the Birds and the Bees, is available at Amazon. Her first memory of sexual pleasure, masturbating at age 4 The challenge of overcoming staleness in the marriage bed Rediscovering masturbation as an adult Encountering shame and childhood trauma when her husband requested new sexual explorations What she learned as a child about being a "good girl" The messages we hear about being a smart and outspoken female Using sexual dominance as a protective measure, sexual prowess as power over men The cultural balance in wanting men to pursue women and ask for things vs. men being perceived as aggressive/entitled Shasta's experience with body image—being the "smart one" but also flaunting/accentuating what you have Trying new things with her husband to break barriers around shame and stories Audio extras for this episode are: Shasta talks more about her First Nation/Indigenous background and what it was like to grow up as a mixed race child in Canada. She also talks about the messages she heard about being a "good girl." The extended Q&A   Update:  Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak