I tried to pee standing up – Lachlan

Lachlan was born with a vagina. His is the story of how a boy learned to be a girl, then learned to be invisible, then a lesbian, before learning that he could just be who he was all along, except that it's still … complicated. Lachlan is a 41-year-old transgender man. He describes himself as white, straight-ish, monogamish and single. He describes his body as a round, cuddly bear. Lachlan shares the complications around early sexual desire for him, because he knew he was attracted to other little girls. Lachlan's parents don't pressure him to gender conform as a kid, though trans isn't a known thing back then. Until, a birthday party. He learns about "passing" and blouses, and struggles through his teens. He talks about his rich fantasy life as a teen, in which he is a tall handsome football-playing penis-bearing male vaguely modeled on Macguyver. Lachlan's first sexual experience of any kind is at age 21 with his first girlfriend, who teaches him to masturbate. He squirts! The concept of transgender comes into his awareness. Lachlan comes out, despite fearing he will lose his entire family. After the news is broken to his father (by his mother) it is never spoken of between them again. Lachlan shares outward steps of transition; therapy, hormones, telling people you work with, growing facial hair. Becoming a man complicates his lesbian relationship. Lachlan details how sexuality transitions along with transitioning: the impacts of testosterone, top and bottom surgical options, the discomfort of still having to get a pap smear, etc. Lachlan talks about the mechanics around having sex in present day. Top surgery has enhanced appearance but decreased sensation. Heartbreak and pandemic create time alone. Lachlan passes fully as a male, and decides if and when disclosure comes, in normal life as well as dating. He opens the door on bathroom talk.   Update:  Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak