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EPISODE · Aug 6, 2025 · 16 MIN

I Want To Be Soft, But My Trauma Said Nahhh..

from ADHD AF!! · host Chante Douglass

Let's be real...softness doesn't always feel safe when you're neurodivergent, especially when you've experienced trauma and spent your whole life in survival mode. In this episode, we unpack what it means to want to be vulnerable, open, and emotionally present...but feel blocked by rejection, or the constant need to protect yourself. From masking and emotional shutdowns to being labeled "too sensitive," we talk about why softness feels like a risk, and how that shows up in relationships, friendships, and even with ourselves. This is for the folks who crave intimacy but flinch when it gets too real. For those who've had to be the strong one for too long. For the ones who want to be soft, but just...don't know how to feel safe doing it yet.Let's talk about what it takes to unlearn the armor and come home to yourself.

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