“I was abused. How can I forgive?”

I know God allows painful things to happen to us, but what is He thinking and feeling about us in those moments? God has given me so many opportunities to express love and grace to others and to pray for them. I’m so thankful! I’m a survivor of sexual abuse, and I wonder about forgiving those who were involved. How can I? Were there people created before Adam and Eve? People tell me I’m not a real Christian, because I have separated myself from family members that were abusive. Are they right about me?