I Was Seen As an Object for People To Hurt and Use! | A Colourful Past Podcast

I Earned This F&#King Chair: The 18-Year-Old Rule That Forced Me to Stop Blaming My Parents for Addiction.Did a peer in her 12-step fellowship really accuse her of driving her partner to his death? Rebecca Savage shares her raw journey from a childhood riddled with sexual trauma and physical violence to radical accountability mindset. This is an uncensored look at navigating toxic recovery communities and the devastating consequences of complex grief and guilt.Rebecca, who is 11 years clean, opens up about the moment a simple piece of advice "Anything that happened to you before you're 18 you can blame that on your parents. Anything that you've done though after 18 that's on you" forced her to pivot from a victim mentality to responsibility.We discuss the immense pain of losing custody of children to addiction and the decade of supervised visits. Rebecca tackles the shame of body shaming in 12 step meetings and facing extreme weight stigma while at 163 kilos. She explains the deep personal reasoning behind the 12-step relationship suggestion, sharing the heartbreak of her partner's relapse and overdose death.This interview is essential for anyone doing trauma-informed recovery or seeking to stop the generational trauma cycle.00:00 - Viral Hook: I Earned This Chair04:35 - The Consequences of Ignoring the 12-Step Relationship Suggestion10:41 - Why Waiting Two Years Is Essential for Foundation and Survival13:58 - "You Killed Him": Surviving Toxic Recovery Room Gossip15:09 - Refusing to Be Shamed Out of Recovery: I Earned This Chair25:21 - Dealing with Extreme Stigma: Facing False Accusations and Body Shaming30:57 - Trauma Timeline: Born Dead and Childhood of Violence38:51 - The Pain of Losing Custody of Children to Addiction46:17 - The 18-Year-Old Rule: Victim Mentality to Accountability Shift48:16 - How Drugs "Saved My Life" by Numbing Sexual Trauma56:37 - The Work That Healed Me: Addictive Healing and Complex PTSD#TraumaInformedRecovery#AccountabilityMindset#IEarnedThisChair#18YearOldRule#ToxicRecoveryCommunities#LosingCustodyToAddiction#ComplexPTSDHealing#AddictionToResponsibility#BodyImageInRecovery#12StepRelationshipRule