I went numb so my marriage would work – Evelin

Dr. Evelin Dacker is a cisgender half-Mexican, half-Jewish polyamorous woman who is 53 years old. Evelin is a sex-positive physician in Eugene, Oregon and the CEO of Sex Positive Portland, an organization dedicated to understanding and exploring all aspects of human sexuality. She is also the creator of the STARS Talk, a format for talking about your sexuality and preferences so that we can ALL have more satisfying sexual encounters with both current and new partners. Evelin's history with masturbation from the time she was a baby Judy Blume's books as sex education How the ability to self-pleasure replaced a desire for sex as a teenager Learning compersion Distinguishing between open relationships and cheating The relationship Evelin defines as "primary" Meeting her spouse on a beach in Thailand What is NRE? (Hint: New Relationship Energy) The effects of being married to an alcoholic How the story of their meeting kept her marriage together The terrible side effects Evelin experienced with birth control pills The distinction between moving sexual energy and sensual energy while having sex The answer Evelin knew but didn't want to know: she didn't feel safe The discovery that saved Evelin's soul: Roller Derby The re-emergence of Evelin's bisexuality Sober vs. dry drunk Getting turned on by seeing someone flirting with her spouse Becoming anorgasmic and looking forward to menopause Opening the relationship Meeting a soulmate that supported Evelin through deep sexual healing The end of her marriage and discovering polyamory The evolution of the relationship with her spouse now that they are no longer married In this episode, we mentioned the following resources: Evelin's TEDx Talk - Seeing STARS: A stimulating safer sex talk Evelin's website - www.EvelinDacker.com Book – Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel Movie – Henry and June Television series – Portrait of a Marriage Retailer and education center – She Bop is a women-owned sex toy boutique in Portland, Oregon   Update:  Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak