I Won My First Boxing Match and Never Fought Again EP 82

I heard a question on a trashy Netflix reality show that completely stopped me:“Is it the fear of failure… or the fear of people watching you fail?”And  I haven’t stopped thinking about it since.In this episode, I talk about the amount of energy we spend trying to manage perception. Trying to look competent. Trying to avoid embarrassment. Trying to make sure nobody sees us struggle, fail, fall apart, get rejected, get divorced, get fired, or not get it right the first time.I talk about boxing competitively and why I never fought again after winning. I talk about recording and deleting podcast episodes over and over. I talk about what I made divorce and getting fired mean about me.Because underneath perfectionism is often something much deeper:the fear that if people see us fail, they’ll decide we’re no longer worthy of love, respect, connection, or belonging.This is a conversation about failure, identity, nervous system protection, and learning how to keep showing up without needing certainty first.Looking for somewhere to have conversations like this?Every Wednesday at 8 PM EST, I host a free community call for women who are sober, alcohol-free, or questioning their relationship with alcohol. We talk about the stuff that comes with choosing to live differently... the rebuilding, the relationships, the identity shifts, the hard days, and figuring out what you actually want your life to look like now.You don't need to have it all figured out, and you don't need to be a certain number of days, months or years alcohol-free. Come listen, share, connect, and be around other women who get it.Join us for free → https://thedeliberateone.com/the-deliberate-community🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.Explore everything at thedeliberateone.com Connect on Instagram @thedeliberateoneIf this episode supported you, you can buy me a coffee here