#Idea2 People Fabricate Anger #TheCourageToBeDisliked

Recently I read a book name called The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. This is the second idea of the book. People Fabricate Anger. Isn't anger a primal human emotion that is common to everyone? To insinuate that we fabricate anger? The youth in the book narrates an instance where a waiter accidentally spilled food on him, and the youth immediately burst into an outburst. The philosopher explained this interaction in a counterintuitive Adlerian perspective: the youth got angry so that he could shout. The youth understandably was bewildered. What the heck? It was but natural to lose control and get angry in such a situation. The philosopher countered - if the youth had a knife with him, this line of argument would say that it is natural to stab the waiter. Nope. Anger is a choice. Yes, a choice that has been conditioned as second nature over a long series of transactions. A choice nonetheless. And we can choose not to get angry - by training our minds over time.