Identity answering the question "Who am I"

How do we change the world when we don't know who we are.What impact can we make of we are struggling to answer this question who am I, so much pain and suffering is being accepted because we want to shape the world around our own narrative, everyone must be like us, think like us and when they don't we reject their humanity we label them and we plot to destroy them. When we should view it as a opportunity to learn and become enlightened.