If It Feels Hard… You’re Not Doing It Wrong, EP. 153 episode artwork

EPISODE · Apr 16, 2026 · 11 MIN

If It Feels Hard… You’re Not Doing It Wrong, EP. 153

from Nope! We're Not Monogamous · host Ellecia Paine

Jealousy in non-monogamy doesn’t always look dramatic.Sometimes it’s not a big blow-up or obvious conflict. Sometimes it’s the slow build.A little comparison. A little overthinking. That subtle drop in your stomach when your partner mentions someone else.And before you know it, it’s affecting your mood, your communication, and the way you show up in your relationship.In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m talking about the hidden cost of ignoring jealousy, especially in polyamory and open relationships, and why trying to “be chill” or push past your feelings usually creates more distance, not more security.We’re getting into:→ why jealousy doesn’t stay contained to one moment→ how ignored triggers stack over time and impact your nervous system→ the sneaky ways jealousy affects communication in polyamory→ why your reactions might feel bigger than the situation→ how to stop overthinking and start feeling more grounded→ what actually helps you work through jealousy in a healthy wayIf you’ve been feeling anxious in your relationship, struggling with comparison, or noticing that jealousy is quietly shaping how you show up, this episode will help you feel less alone and give you a place to start.This is for anyone navigating: → jealousy in polyamory → jealousy in open relationships → comparison in non-monogamy → relationship anxiety → fear of not being enough → feeling activated when your partner dates others💜 If you’re ready for deeper support, check out Beyond Jealousy here: https://elleciapaine.podia.com/beyondjealousySend us Fan MailSupport the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

Jealousy in non-monogamy doesn’t always look dramatic. Sometimes it’s not a big blow-up or obvious conflict. Sometimes it’s the slow build. A little comparison. A little overthinking. That subtle drop in your stomach when your partner mentions someone else. And before you know it, it’s affecting your mood, your communication, and the way you show up in your relationship. In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m talking about the hidden cost of ignoring jealousy, especially in polyam...

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Jealousy in non-monogamy doesn’t always look dramatic.Sometimes it’s not a big blow-up or obvious conflict. Sometimes it’s the slow build.A little comparison. A little overthinking. That subtle drop in your stomach when your partner mentions someone...

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