If They Only Knew

What this episode covers

You post the photo. Everyone comments "you're such a good mom." And all you can think is —if they only knew.If they only knew what happened three minutes before that photo. If they only knew the version of you that exists when nobody is watching — the one in the car, the one at 10pm, the one that is barely holding it together on a Tuesday and performing fine in every room.That gap — between who you are and who you think you're supposed to be — that is shame. And in this episode Alyssa goes all the way into it.Not the surface version of shame. The specific kind that lives in the high-achieving, self-aware, doing-all-the-right-things woman who still feels like a fraud. The kind that makes "you're amazing" feel like evidence of the gap instead of evidence of the truth. The kind that drives you to do more, be more, try harder — because if you just get far enough ahead, maybe it won't catch up.Alyssa shares what it was like to sit in a parking lot crying before work and then walk in five minutes later to help someone else put their life together — and the specific moment she realized she had been performing the version of herself she thought she was supposed to be in every single room.And she asks the question that changes everything.In this episode:The difference between guilt and shame — and why it matters more than you thinkWhy "I had a good enough childhood, I shouldn't complain" is shame doing what shame does bestThe parking lot story — Alyssa's most vulnerable episode yetHow shame drives the go-go-go, the perfectionism, and the performanceThe generational piece — what you inherited, what you're breaking, and why you don't give yourself any credit for itThe question to ask yourself the next time shame shows upThe takeaway: The next time shame shows up, finish this sentence: "If you reduce me to this moment, you miss ___." Fill it in. One specific true thing the shame is leaving out. Give yourself the full picture — not just the worst frame.Chapters:00:00 - Introduction to shame in motherhood03:43 - Understanding the power of shame08:28 - Repairing shame through vulnerability17:07 - Overcoming shame with self-acceptance22:00 - Celebrating repair and resilience31:13 - Embracing human imperfection35:20 - Community's role in healing shameResources & Links:Reclaim (Signature Program)Align MembershipInstagram - Hey Alyssa BoothHealing from shame is an ongoing journey rooted in connection, vulnerability, and self-compassion. Remember, you are human, and your efforts are enough—even in the messiest moments. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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