If You Can’t Decide to Stay or Leave, This Is Why (How to Trust Your Body & Intuition) with Becky Aste

If you’ve been stuck in the spiral of “do I stay or do I leave?”… overthinking every interaction, questioning your intuition, and trying to make the “right” decision from your mind… this episode is for you. Because the truth is — you’re not actually confused. You’re disconnected from your body. In this episode, I sat down with Becky Aste to talk about why decision-making in relationships can feel so hard — especially when you have anxious attachment — and what’s actually happening in your nervous system in those moments. We dive into how overthinking becomes a protective strategy, why awareness alone isn’t enough to shift your patterns, and how attachment activation can completely block access to clarity and intuition. We also get into what it really looks like to move from anxious attachment into secure attachment, not just conceptually, but in real-time, lived experience. This episode will help you understand: why you feel stuck in the “stay or go” loop how anxious attachment impacts your ability to make decisions what’s happening in your body when you can’t access clarity how to start trusting your intuition again what it looks like to shift from “I don’t know” to deeply trusting yourself If you’ve been trying to think your way into clarity… this will show you why that hasn’t worked — and what to do instead. Your body already knows. This episode will help you learn how to listen. I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for the month of May, who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call Connect with Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste/ Connect with Val on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/