If You Keep Attracting the Same Toxic Partner, Watch This

Most people think gaslighting is the scariest part of narcissistic abuse. Thomas Ruderstaller says the real damage happens somewhere else entirely, deep in your nervous system.In this episode of the Health Pioneers Podcast, Thomas, a licensed clinician, coach, and somatic experience practitioner, breaks down what actually happens inside the brain and body of someone who survives narcissistic abuse. He speaks not only as a clinician but as someone who lived through it himself.He explains why narcissism exists on a spectrum, why the word people throw around most, gaslighting, is often confused with something else called projection, and why some of the "nicest" people you know might actually be trapped in something called a fawn response.Thomas also shares a remarkable story about a client who fully dissociated in one session and came out the other side completely transformed, and explains why "just relax" is some of the worst advice you can give someone recovering from trauma.🕰️ CHAPTERS 00:00 The compliment that's secretly a confession00:32 Meet Thomas Rudderstaller, narcissistic abuse recovery expert04:21 Why 1 in 20 people might qualify as a true narcissist06:12 Gaslighting vs projection: the difference nobody explains right09:08 Why the nicest people are sometimes the most dangerous12:37 The nervous system response hiding behind "people pleasing"26:39 She dissociated in one session. What happened next will surprise you.28:19 How to survive co-parenting with a narcissist35:10 The vagus nerve secret behind your smile38:18 Why "just relax" makes trauma worseFind Thomas Rudderstaller:Website: https://lifestreamcounseling.co/