If You Want To Know How To Motivate Your Daughter, You’re Asking The Wrong Question

As parents, we naturally want the best for our daughters. But sometimes, the ways we motivate them can be stifling. Instead of motivating them, we end up limiting them. If you want to know how to motivate your daughter, then perhaps it is time we reflect back on ourselves and realize that maybe we are asking the wrong question. Dr. Tim Jordan enlightens us in this episode.A better question is: How can I support my daughter’s intrinsic motivation? How can I help her discover her own internal motivation?In many ways, the answer is to get out of her way.Ask kids why they want the grades they desire, and why they love the activities they are into. When they share why they love what they are doing, mirror it back to help them internalize their intrinsic good feelings for their passions.Bobbi Brown story: taken from, Wherever You Go Is Not Who You’ll Be by Frank BruniMia Hamm’s story from The Right Words at the Right Time, by Marlo ThomasMany kids do not find motivation with schoolwork/education until after HS or college when they can choose what they study & pursue, especially if they are strongminded, independent, and with an entrepreneurial spirit. Some kids will NOT be into school the way you want, no matter what parents do.Value passion where you find it, and trust that the lessons they learn from such pursuits will be transferrable to other endeavors.The stories of Jane Goodall and the Wright brothers illustrate the importance of encouraging and supporting your children’s dreams.Contact Dr. Jordan at www.drtimjordan.com or [email protected] more information about how to support kids in finding their passions and calling, read Dr. Jordan’s book, She Leads: A Practical Guide for Raising Girls Who Advocate, Influence, and Lead. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices