Ignoring Your Feelings Isn’t Holiness—It’s Harm // Jon & Tristen Collins

We sit down with John and Tristan Collins, longtime friends and the husband-and-wife team behind Why Emotions Matter, to explore how our emotions shape our spiritual life, our relationships, and the way we lead. Their unique blend of theology, psychology, and lived experience helps us rethink what it really means to be emotionally healthy Christians.We talk about the stories that formed them—theologies that ignored the body, family backgrounds that shaped their comfort with feelings, and the conflicts early in their marriage that revealed just how much we all need emotional awareness. Their honesty reminds us that suppressing emotions doesn’t make us stronger. Naming them, understanding them, and letting God transform them does.From the Bible Project’s work to Tristan’s trauma-informed counseling lens, we unpack why emotions are not the enemy of spiritual maturity but a pathway to it. The Collins share practical insight on navigating anger, jealousy, shame, sadness, and unmet expectations—especially in seasons like Valentine’s, when emotions run high and assumptions run deep. Their wisdom brings us back to a foundational truth: we are embodied, beloved people, and our emotions are invitations from God to deeper connection, not signs of weakness.==========================================================Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you’re a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.   Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you,Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM@TerraMattson@Living_Wholehearted@MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK@WeAreLivingWholehearted@MyCourageousGirls WEBSITESLivingWholehearted.comTerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCESShrinking the Integrity Gap Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in GraceDear Mattsons Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters