I'm Not Defensive - You're Just Wrong.

Defensiveness: the universal sport none of us trained for.In this episode, Geoff and Kelly unpack why judgment masquerades as protection — and how inherited cultural memes shape the way we react under pressure.Using the OFNR model, they explore how to shift from defensiveness to understanding, and how curiosity opens possibilities that judgment shuts down. Listeners are invited to notice where judgment shows up and explore what’s underneath it.Connection grows when protection relaxes — one breath at a time.Keywords: defensiveness, judgment patterns, cultural memes, OFNR, emotional reactivity, perspective-taking